We all know it is a lie. We all know it is unattainable. And yet, everyday we find ourselves grasping for the unreachable. Why? I am actually asking myself this right now. I am about to get brutally honest.
Here I was going through my day. It has been a good day. Productive, happy kids, and a smooth day of homeschool. I even was able to take time and tackle my bathroom and room which was an utter embarrassment! Everything was going great! That is until I reached for my phone to check my Instagram Feed.
And there it was… picture perfect squares of picture perfect people doing picture perfect things. Immediately, discouragement fell over me. Here I was scrubbing toilets and vacuuming dust bunnies content at the work before me. Immediately after scrolling I began questioning what I was doing with my life and if what I do even matters. Just in a matter of moments my whole attitude shifted and the feeling of less than began to creep in.
I am grateful I was able to acknowledge the shift within me and call it out for what it was. Comparison and the desire for perfectionism.
Most days I am in sweatpants and one of Luke’s shirts. I hardly ever put on makeup during the day unless I am going out. And my coffee is reheated at least 3 times per cup. My home is not always clean and there is always laundry to be done.
As I realized what was happening internal, I began to ponder on these things. One thing I learned in life when you are down is to start being grateful. And as I began to list the things I am grateful for I realized that this imperfect messy life is exactly what I want and where I want to be. Cuddling my kids in the morning while most others are hurriedly trying to get out the doors, watching my son sound out words and know that I was the one that taught him brings so much joy. Working with my husband and building a business together has been life changing.
I know perfectionism is unattainable. I know that you know this too. However, on those days where you feel “less than” I hope you can take some of these tips to turn around your thinking.
As I close, I am really having a love-hate relationship with social media. I love how it connects you with like minded people especially in business. I love that is a great platform to share your work and your ideas. We have used it to grow our business in a way that I don’t think we could have without it. However, this generation I think struggles more with perfectionism than before. I think we as women and creatives have it even harder. Yet, we don’t encourage the messy. We don’t really see much authenticity. However, we all crave it. The older I get the more and more I crave “realness.” As we dig in to this New Year, my goal is to really analyze what I put on social media and the reasoning behind it. My life is not perfect and I don’t ever want to convey that it is. I don’t have a social media strategy to offer other than strive for authenticity and go ahead and put down your phone.
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