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June 16, 2015

We are Luke & Ashley { Our Alter Egos }

Why is our life so messy and yet we always pretend everything is so pristine???

It’s almost like we have our alter egos.  We have us.  The real us.  The raw unedited version that we only share to those closest to us.  And then we have these alter egos.  The person we portray online.  Where we show only our best. We talk about our vacations and our kids accomplishments.  We showcase our well manicured homes and the beautifully plated dinner that could have been in a culinary magazine.  We spend so much time making sure everything is perfect before we share to the world.

However, what the world doesn’t see is that pile of paperwork you have on your desk that hasn’t been filed in months… the dishes in the sink left over from last night… okay maybe from the weekend even.  Or lets get real deep.  They don’t see the overwhelming load that you are carrying day to day.  The financial burdens that you are having to face every morning.

They don’t see the strain in your marriage or even the strain in the relationship with your kids.  They don’t see the sickness, the tears, or even the pain.

I get it.  I am guilty as well for taking the time to make sure everything looks perfect.  However, I want you to know that my life is not perfect.

I am not perfect, my marriage is not perfect and my kids are not perfect.

As easy as it is to pretend that it is I don’t want to come off that we have it all together.

Because we don’t…. And we never will.

Sharing the real us is hard.  However, in those moments that we are raw and honest with ourselves as well with those around us… we are more impactful.  We don’t realize it but as we share only the good we are creating this world of perfection.  Think about it for a moment…

We are creating a world of perfection.

For example Pinterest.  Pinterest is eye candy for us girls!  We absolutely LOVE it.  From fashion to home decor.  Everything is so pretty!  However, that is not reality.  I know constantly looking at those pretty homes and decor, I feel kind of down because my house definitely doesn’t look like those on Pinterest or in the magazines I look at. And I know because of our human nature when we surround ourselves with perfection then we begin to feel insignificant.

I don’t want others to feel insignificant.  My life is messy.

There are areas that I don’t have it together.

Just this past week I was 45 mins late to a meeting with a potential bride!  I completely misread her email and scheduled the time for another date.  Thank goodness she was kind enough to wait while I threw myself and family in the car and rushed to the coffee house.  I don’t know what she saw in us after that but she booked with us! All I can say was that she was gracious.  🙂

I want those that are my friends, those that take time to read our blog, and those that we are blessed to call our clients.  I want you all to know that you are significant.

Your life is valuable and you have purpose and destiny.

 Your life might not look like mine ( and that is probably a good thing), but your life is so precious.  The good and the bad.

We mess up.  And we learn from those mess-ups hopefully.  And although out of habit I will still share the prettier side of our lives.  I want you to know that behind that picture there is a pile of laundry growing by the minute, a little boy having a tantrum, and a mom just trying to make it through her day.

Our Alter Egos

our alter egos



  1. Natalie

    June 16th, 2015 at 12:08 pm

    Such a heartfelt post! Beautiful!

  2. Ashley Beasley

    June 16th, 2015 at 8:53 pm

    Thank-You Natalie!!

  3. Christa Rae

    June 16th, 2015 at 12:10 pm

    This post has such amazing advice!! I completely agree with the Pinterest – it’s good to keep focused on how it’s not reality. Thank you for opening up on here!

  4. Ashley Beasley

    June 16th, 2015 at 8:53 pm

    Thank-You Christa! I definitely have to pay attention how much time I spend on Pinterest! Thank-You for reading!

  5. stacy hart

    June 16th, 2015 at 1:18 pm

    I love the candidness of this blog post. Thanks for sharing!

  6. Jessica Haley

    June 16th, 2015 at 2:26 pm

    Love this!! Can I get an amen? 🙂

  7. Ashley Beasley

    June 16th, 2015 at 8:52 pm

    Lol! Thank-You Jessica! 🙂

  8. Jackie Phillips

    June 16th, 2015 at 2:39 pm

    Well said. It’s so hard to share the not-so-pretty and you’re right, have it look like we have it all together. Because I definitely don’t. I think I struggle with defining the personal and business even though they do run together a bit.

  9. Ashley Beasley

    June 16th, 2015 at 8:52 pm

    It’s definitely a challenge Jackie and such a learning process. May we never stop learning and growing! 🙂

  10. Lauren Swann

    June 16th, 2015 at 7:45 pm

    Oh friends, I love this post!! PREACH! 🙂

  11. Ashley Beasley

    June 16th, 2015 at 8:51 pm

    Thank-You Lauren!!!

  12. Carly Fuller

    June 16th, 2015 at 10:02 pm

    Such a fantastic post. So many people are soooo consumed with fitting into the cookie cutter mold of what looks perfect in everyone else’s lives that they miss the sweet joys and fun in the mishaps of their own life. Perfection is defined differently for everyone!

  13. Ashley Beasley

    June 17th, 2015 at 9:25 pm

    Well Said Carly! 🙂

  14. Caitlin

    June 17th, 2015 at 2:11 pm

    i just love this- so perfect!!

  15. Ashley Beasley

    June 17th, 2015 at 8:23 pm

    You are too sweet Caitlin! Thank-You! 🙂

  16. Bonnie

    July 31st, 2015 at 4:52 pm

    So you made me tear up. How honest and transparent you are. Thank you for the friendship that allows me to be that same person with you dirty laundry, buckets of stuff and all! 🙂
    Please keep writing these kind of posts. They will be a gentle reminder that it’s ok to be imperfect in a world that expects so much perfection. I love you girl!

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