Letters To The Bride

 

We haven’t had a Letters To The Bride post in awhile and with lots of summer and fall weddings coming up this couldn’t be a more perfect time to share this post!

This past Tuesday Luke & I were able to meet up with some other creatives in the Hampton Roads area. This is a new thing and it happens once a month.  I am loving meeting so many talented individuals and talking about the wedding day.

As I was sitting there we were going over what Brides don’t normally think about on their wedding day.  I mean there is so much going on leading up to and day of the wedding that some things are bound to be missed! So I am going to write a letter to the bride.

One of the biggest things that stood out to me was set-up and tear down.  By the time Luke & I arrive to the reception it is normally already set-up for us to take pictures.   Also, when the bride & groom do their final exit we have our things already packed up and leave right after them.  Our job is done.

However, there is still so much to be done once the couple leave.  This is called tear down.  This can take at least 2 hours!

One of the things we noticed in the past at some weddings is that the Bride and Grooms family and friends will be the ones setting up and tearing down  on the big day.

And I get this.  I get the whole budget thing.  Believe me I do!

Usually these family & friends are the ones that have helped throughout the wedding process and although extremely supportive and happy for you…. they are tired.

Spending the day stressing that everything is set-up perfectly for you,  then after you leave making sure everything is cleaned and goes where it is supposed to go will leave them…. utterly exhausted.

I know brides mean well.  And I know that sometimes it seems that there is no other option.

Some things you can do relieve your family and friends of this task:

1. Ask the venue!  ( Some venues will tear down… So ask)!

2. Hire a wedding planner.  ( If you don’t want a planner for the whole wedding then hire a day of coordinator.  Just be sure to ask if this is covered).

3. College Kids!  ( Ask some local college kids to tear down!  Definitely a cheaper option)!

4. Ask the Florist or Caterer.  ( Some floral and catering companies do offer tear down.  One of my good Friends Karen, from Aleen Floral Design will set up all the centerpieces and then after the wedding she comes back to pick up all centerpieces and passes out all the florals to guests.  How Amazing is that!)!

I know sometimes family and friends are the only way to go.  And if so be sure to show your gratefulness.  Love on them extra that day and send a thank-you gift after the wedding.  They put in a lot of hard work and dedication, so be sure to go the extra mile in showing them your love.  It’s funny how our attitude of gratefulness can change someones attitude and perspective.  Just a simple thank-you and hug will get them through the night!

Hope this helps and if you have any other advice or tips then PLEASE leave your comments below for our next Letters To The Bride.

Setting Up and Tearing Down A Wedding